Understanding

Much has been said and written about understanding others and of course oneself. Can we understand another person, if we can't, how can we interact the way we do? If we can understand, to which extent can we do that? Can we say that we totally and compleately understand another human being or can we only understand to some extent based on what the person shares with us. What about fear? Someone is afraid of heights, someone else is afraid of cats, can we understand their fears if we haven't ever experienced something similiar.

Understanding someone else has much to with being able to put yourself in that persons situation, seeing the matter from that perspectives. Why is someone afraid of cats and someone else of heights? It is easy to say: come on up here, it is beautiful or hey, cute cats can't be scarry. Well they can be, to someone who is afraid of them and you can't appreciate the beauty of the scenery if you are fraid of heights. All you want to do is get the hell away from there. But if you manage to put yourself in the other persons perspective you might be able to understand what they experience in in that situation. This doesn't only concern fobias, fear of negative things but happiness, joy and love.

Life is full of surprised and unexpected turns. You have to hold on tight in the fast turns and let go when it goes slow straight ahead. It can be healthy to have strikt rutins and habits but it is also healthy to walk a different way to your job, tast e new kind of yoghurt, say hello to strangers, sing in the shower, sleep late in the weekends, let your friends convince you to do something rather crazy, be open to new things, listen to people, really listen to what they say instead of just nodding, let yourself make mistake and learn, be heartbroken and learn how to show it, laugh out loud and share happiness with others. It is also recommedable that you learn to de-code Trolls in their confusing way of expressing thoughts and emotions.