Being Handy

Last night discussion was much about girl and boy toys, clothes and things you do with kids. Blue/pink, dolls/cars, play physically/sit and sing.. etc. Society and people love to categorize things and people. Okey, you are a boy, then you like cars and dress in blue jeans. Aaah, little girl, then you better have long curls, pink dress and play with dolls. The first people that categorize kids are parents. Quite obviously. Kids learn patterns from their parents or parent with friends. Of course the older they get the more influences they get from kindergarten, school and so on. What trollet now has in mind is things you do with your kids. You need to fix something on the house or you have an electric problem, and you want to show your kids/kid how to handle things. In most cases the son is taken to look at the problem while the daughter is told to wait in the kitchen with the other parent. Of course, let not be naïve, it is not always like this, but in many cases. So is it so strange that many women sit with their thumb up the ass when it comes to electric problems or building things? They were not taken to look at the problem in their childhood.

Trollet is stuck with the electric issues as she had a problem yesterday with her lamp. It has been dead for 1 year and yesterday she got an urge to fix it. She built a little thing so she could reach to the ceiling lamp. Up there she realized that one of the cords was loose. Does she know anything about electricity? No not really. But a lot of times the problem is not that difficult. Why not take a look before running to the nearest man asking for help? So she got a screwdriver and put the cords back. She switches the lamp on and Tatadaaa. The lamp works, until..bbbzzzz… pang. Hmm. Okey. Obviously she caused a short circuit. Hmm, okey, try again. She did this three times but same story again and again. So did she succeed in fixing the lamp? No, she did not. And of course it makes her very frustrated as she wants to be able to fix everything herself and she gets very upset if people imply that she doesn’t know or understand how to do something. The point with this electric story was that you can always take a look at the problem yourself before screaming for help. Sometimes you have to call professionals to fix it but other times you might see that, aaah, this little thing was loose and you simply put it back.

A lot of times people, both men and women, just don’t bother trying as they assume that they don’t know how. Why not try? And this doesn’t concern electric things, but in general. Don’t be so stuck in men’s duties and women duties. That is just dumb, simply dumb. Why not try to learn new things. What you should focus on is the things you enjoy doing. Sure, Trollet loves to cook, which could be seen as a women duty. But then again she is from a home where dad is the one cooking and she has a brother that is like a magician in the kitchen. So it is more a cooking issue, we all love to experiment with food. She used to, a few years ago, live with a man that always fixed all house things. Isn’t that wrong then? Well, the point is that he really enjoyed doing it and he didn’t do it because he thought that Trollet couldn’t handle it. If she wanted to he taught her how to fix something particularly difficult. Of course he got a few temperamental outbursts in his neck as Trollet gets so very frustrated when she doesn’t fix it directly. In Trollet’s last relationship Trollet was the handy one, as he really didn’t have a clue about these things. It felt good to be the handy one, he could cook while she was trying to figure out why something was not working properly. And THAT is the issue. Everyone should do what they enjoy but also be open minded to learn. Last relationship man, was completely unwilling and uninterested in learning anything concerning computers, machines or anything that had a buzzing sound. That is silly. He had the attitude many women have. Oh, I don’t know how and I can’t be bothered in learning, I have better things to do. Of course you can’t be bothered to learn about everything, but at least learn things that you need in everyday life. Like changing a bloody fuse, how difficult is that?? Trollet admits that every time her computer really fucks up, like gets a virus or is just completely dead she runs over to her ex..help.. She is learning more and more everyday about computers but is not near as smooth as her ex with them, and she doesn’t want to destroy her baby completely. So we all have our ups and downs… But let the ones that are willing to learn try, make mistakes and finally get it. We need an opportunity, and not be categorized.

Okey, speech is over. Trollet just needed to say all this.